WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO TO YOUR CHILDREN (English translation below) // ÇOCUKLARINIZA NE YAPMAMALISINIZ
Here is my second column at Yasamburada.com " What You Shouldn’t Do To Your Children "
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Little or grown up, your child will always stay as your child. As a communications expert, I wish to list mistakes that I’ve observed. For further counseling, I can address you pedagogues, psychologists and psychiatrists. Maybe the best pedagogue I’ve ever known is my husband Morten
What You Shouldn’t Do To Your Children:
1. Don’t kiss your children on the lips. Making their resistance higher against bacteria is a created story. Go and kiss your spouse/husband/wife a lot. Your children are not your lovers.
2. Don’t tell your problems with your spouse/husband/wife to your children. In fact don’t tell anyone. If you are a no matter what telling person, go and tell to someone at your age.
And NEVER EVER replace your children with spouse/husband/wife. Do your activities with people at your age.
3. Listen to your children. Let them talk only. Give your time to them and sit without any furniture in between you, listen to them with your heart.
4. Caress your children’s heads, hug them and hold their hands. Hold their hands like a mother/father, not like a spouse/husband/wife and hold them.
5. Don’t touch their bodies even for jokes. Maybe until 10 of age you can slap their popos. I’m repeating until 10 of age.
6. Don’t abuse them to work with an “Earn your pocket money” lie. If you want more money, go and work in an extra job.
7. Don’t be an “I created you” person. If you are supporting in materialistic way, do it on time, support without making beg and keep silent. You can’t make your child respect you or be thankful making him/her run after you many times.
8. Give nice food to your children. Make them beautiful in ornamental way. I don’t say expensive. Ornamental. Their lunchboxes are more important..
9. Don’t make your children cry. World is enoughly bad.
10. Don’t make fun of your children. AGAIN NEVER EVER. A good mother/father loves the children more than her/his existence, doesn’t look for an opportunity to make fun of them.
11. Never insult your children. Even whilst an argument. Little ones take the power to live from you don’t you see it?
12. Don’t punish them. The ugliest punishments are leaving them in the street, darkness or hungry.
13. Do it when you promise. Promise is a given word to be done.
14. Don’t do caprice to your child. If you want to be spoiled’ your spouse/husband/wife is one phone call distant.
15. Don’t stipulate conditions. Talk openly. He/She will understand you.
16. Don’t threaten. Don’t scare them. I’m repeating again little ones take the power to live from you don’t you see it?
17. The thing you appreciate should be talent, not money. Encourage them for talents.
18. Encourage them to choose the profession they would like to have. Even there are two more people at home having the same profession. I know a family of four and they are all doctors..
19. Don’t let your daughters have make up until age of 16. Talk about sex education openly and tell that being pregnant at so young ages is not so good.
20. Don’t share your children’s half naked or in sleeping clothes pictures on social media websites. If you are a no matter what sharing person, be careful about your privacy settings and share with only your closest friends. You can’t know who is a pedophile.