Here is my third column at Yasamburada.com "What You Shouldn’t Do To Your Children-2"
// Yasamburada.com 'daki üçüncü köşe yazım "Çocuklarınıza Ne Yapmamalısınız-2"
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After last week’s column, I got two e-mails and lots of messages. One of the e-mails was from a responsible mother and a law person, the other was from a teacher.. I decided to continue the subject one more time. While asking “How did this society turn into this?” in fact “What kind of mother/father did this child have?” should be asked. The traumas the child has had effects the future behavior. As a communications expert, I wish to list mistakes that I’ve observed. For further counseling, I can address you pedagogues, psychologists and psychiatrists. Maybe the best pedagogue I’ve ever known is my husband Morten
What You Shouldn’t Do To Your Children-2:
21. While you are making your children have baths, even though they are babies, never be naked. Don’t have baths together. While you are having bath/shower, don’t leave your door open.
22. Don’t make your children get married in so early ages. Even though they become teenagers so early, showing traditions as excuses, especially to remove a consuming person from the table, don’t make them get married. Cut down what you’re eating. Or go and work in an extra job.
23. Don’t compare your children with other people’s children and especially their own brothers/sisters. This won’t show the way to success, only will make them hate their own existences.
24. Don’t use your children for your crimes/sins. Don’t monitor an excuse of “I did it for you”.
25. Don’t be physically harsh on them; don’t do physical or emotional violence on them
26. Don’t make fun of their physical appearances.
27. Don’t call them with bad nicknames.
28. Don’t change their rooms as how you like them to look. Would you be happy if they changed your rooms?
29. Even at very little ages, teach them how to use phone and make them have first aid lessons. One day they can save their own lives or yours.
30. They shouldn’t live in a dreamy/blurry life; teach them awareness. So that, they can learn their home addresses and later more complicated things by observations while growing up.
31. Teach them whatever they can with their own hands. Like simple meal recipes, sewing, hammering nails, fishing. Maybe you may die the next day but you will be leaving something supporting their lives.
32. Take their opinions and also pay attention to them. Add them to family plans. They are the members of the family..
33. At least once a week do an activity of whole core family. Not a few of you, all core family.
34. Don’t interfere with their wearing too much. Let them have their own styles. Even though looks weird.
35. If they are at the school education period, don’t do their homework until they really are in emergency.
36. We talked about punishment last week; don’t reward them either. The most beautiful thing to make them happy is their mother’s/father’s interest and it can’t be measured materialistically.
37. Don’t be fake. Even in very early ages, children sense fakeness.
38. Influence them for reading and researching.
39. Influence them for love of nature, animals and clean environment.
40. Influence them to love arts.
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